tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8854359911346419002024-02-07T14:47:30.412-08:00Relationships and SexualityAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.comBlogger77125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-86718408880749793802018-03-08T02:47:00.000-08:002018-03-08T02:47:13.930-08:00BSPI Question 22<font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p align="center" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</font></span></b></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">This
is the 22</font><sup><font size="2">nd</font></sup><font size="3"> question in my survey and asks:</font></font></font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ol style="list-style-type: decimal; direction: ltr;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2;">In
reading for sexual pleasure, do you more often enjoy </p></li></ol><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ol style="list-style-type: decimal; direction: ltr;"><ol style="list-style-type: upper-alpha;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; tab-stops: list 72.75pt;">erotic
fantasy, or <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: red;">[I]</span></b></p></li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; tab-stops: list 72.75pt;'>real
life experiences? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: red;">[T]</span></b></p><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt;'><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="color: red;"> </span></b></p><p style='text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;'>65%
of the men and 47% of the women reported that they enjoy reading about erotic
fantasy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>53% of the women and 35% of the
men prefer to read about real life experiences.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This presents a great opportunity for couples to talk about what in the
stories are arousing and to find ways to share in their partner’s
excitement.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, it also represents
one of the biggest challenges for couples to share by being vulnerable enough
to admit what is going on in your mind.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>People fear being judged that if they reveal something they like in a
story that their partner thinks is gross or distasteful that they will be
viewed negatively.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A suggestion, if you
are fearful of being judged negatively, then discuss that with your partner
before you go any further.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Speaking of
negativity and how it can translate into an unhappy relationship – in the book
– The Normal Bar – 74% of the people surveyed around the world reported that
the key to building a healthy relationship is to be happy, which translates
into positivity!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your challenge is to
look for ways to inject happiness, appreciation and positivity into your
relationships.</p></li></ol></ol><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-32844289621142914922018-03-01T02:45:00.000-08:002018-03-01T02:45:23.276-08:00BSPI Question 21<font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p align="center" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</font></span></b></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">This
is the 21</font><sup><font size="2">st</font></sup><font size="3"> question in my survey and asks:</font></font></font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ol style="list-style-type: decimal; direction: ltr;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo2;">Do
you prefer to experience<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></p></li></ol><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ol style="list-style-type: decimal; direction: ltr;"><ol style="list-style-type: upper-alpha;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; tab-stops: list 72.75pt;">emotional
more than physical sexual satisfaction, or </p></li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; tab-stops: list 72.75pt;'>physical
more than emotional sexual satisfaction?</p><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt;'> </p><p style='text-align: justify; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;'>There
was an interesting split in how both men and women responded.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was reciprocally identical.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>60% of the women and 40% of the men prefer
an emotional experience while 40% of the women and 60% of the men preferred a
physical experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The results of this
particular item call into question the myths about men thinking that sex is
always about being physical and women’s thinking it is always about being
emotional.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This represents a real
opportunity to open the discussion about our sexual preferences and what the
experience is like for our partners without making assumptions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For example, try asking your partner that if
s/he prefers to experience sex physically exactly where in the body do you feel
it and just not in the genital area?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If
the answer was a preference toward being emotional, again exactly what emotions
can you identify?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You can take the
answers and use them to enhance, intensify or extend your partner’s pleasure
when you know what s/he wants to experience.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It is a fun and intimate way to deepen the bonds of your
relationship.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></p></li></ol></ol><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-34617319157772986012018-02-23T02:44:00.000-08:002018-02-23T02:44:14.969-08:00BSPI Question 20<font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p align="center" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: center;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 14pt;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</font></span></b></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000"><font face="Times New Roman"><font size="3">This
is the 20</font><sup><font size="2">th</font></sup><font size="3"> question in my survey and asks:</font></font></font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt; text-align: justify; -ms-text-justify: inter-ideograph;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ol style="list-style-type: decimal; direction: ltr;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo2;">When
you are trying a new sexual activity, do you like to </p></li></ol><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ol style="list-style-type: decimal; direction: ltr;"><ol style="list-style-type: upper-alpha;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;"><p style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; tab-stops: list 72.75pt;">take
your time and mindfully proceed, or </p></li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt; mso-list: l0 level2 lfo1; tab-stops: list 72.75pt;'>jump
in and go with the flow? </p><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt;'> </p><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt;'> </p><p style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; margin-top: 0in; margin-bottom: 0pt;'>Men and women responded equally to this question.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Approximately one third of the survey
respondents want to take their time while the other two thirds want to jump
in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Research has clearly demonstrated
that novelty is what keeps things interesting and moving forward in sexual
relationships, so it is no wonder that many of the respondents would be
interested in trying something new.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Even
though the answers clearly indicate that we would like to try something new –
how many of you actually make it a practice?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>My challenge for you is to try something different once a month or every
other month.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For example, you could
consider trying anyone of the following or come up with something on your own:</p></li></ol></ol><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><ul style="list-style-type: disc; direction: ltr;"><li style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">Read an erotic story to each other and replace
the names with your own</li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'>Try a role play where you may even consider
dressing up for the part</li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'>Share a fantasy that your partner does not know
about</li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'>Watch an erotic movie together</li><li style='color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;'>Take turns blind folding each other and
stimulating with different household items like feathers or silks or food
stuffs</li></ul><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">And remember to always make it about – PLEASURE – FUN –
INTIMACY!</font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt;"><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3"> </font></p><font color="#000000" face="Times New Roman" size="3">
</font>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-91213559938301003902017-12-15T01:00:00.000-08:002017-12-15T01:00:01.078-08:00BSPI Question 19<div class="OutlineElement Ltr SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; clear: both; position: relative; direction: ltr; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Segoe UI", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1740261712" paraeid="{6ba258b9-fec1-4e93-a76d-000f631d95ac}{235}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; text-align: center;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; 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-webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"> </span></p></li></ol><ol class="NumberListStyle4 SCXW4460405" role="list" start="1" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; list-style-type: upper-alpha; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Segoe UI", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><li data-leveltext="(%2)" data-font="" data-listid="2" aria-setsize="-1" data-aria-posinset="1" role="listitem" data-aria-level="2" class="OutlineElement Ltr SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 72px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; clear: both; position: relative; direction: ltr; display: block; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; vertical-align: baseline;"><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="408313573" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{10}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">(A) easy</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"> to communicate your sexual needs and desires, or </span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">[D</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">]</span></span><span class="EOP SCXW4460405" data-ccp-props="{}" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"> </span></p></li></ol><ol class="NumberListStyle4 SCXW4460405" role="list" start="2" style="margin-top: 0px; margin-bottom: 0px; padding-left: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; list-style-type: upper-alpha; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Segoe UI", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><li data-leveltext="(%2)" data-font="" data-listid="2" aria-setsize="-1" data-aria-posinset="2" role="listitem" data-aria-level="2" class="OutlineElement Ltr SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px 0px 0px 72px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; clear: both; position: relative; direction: ltr; display: block; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; vertical-align: baseline;"><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1149451143" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{23}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">(B) difficult</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"> to communicate your sexual needs and desires?</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"> </span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">[S</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; color: rgb(255, 0, 0); font-weight: bold; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">]</span></span><span class="EOP SCXW4460405" data-ccp-props="{}" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"> </span></p></li></ol><div class="OutlineElement Ltr SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; clear: both; position: relative; direction: ltr; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Segoe UI", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="538256966" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{25}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"></span></span><span class="EOP SCXW4460405" data-ccp-props="{}" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; font-size: 12pt; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext;"> </span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; clear: both; position: relative; direction: ltr; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Segoe UI", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1875553946" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{44}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; text-align: justify;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">Among women and men only 45% and 52% respectively find it easy to communicate their sexual needs and/or desires. What makes it so difficult for so many people? Communication, communication, communication!!! When you research the origins of the word communication what you learn is that it means to ‘make something common’ and ‘sharing’, i.e. make a community. </span></span></p><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1875553946" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{44}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; text-align: justify;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"><br></span></span></p><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1875553946" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{44}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; text-align: justify;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">One way to explain the difficulties communicating about sex is that the word ‘common’ is subjective. In other words, not everyone thinks about sex the same way. Many people identify sex as only intercours</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">e and that can lead to understanding sex as goal oriented and thus performance based. </span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">This represents a real opportunity to start the discussion with your significant other. Start asking some questions – what does sex mean to you? What do want to get out of sex? </span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">How can we make sex more pleasurable, fun and intimate?</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"> One of the best ways to get comfortable communicating about</span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"> </span></span><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;">sex is to start a dialogue. You can use my survey to explore and most of all – have fun!</span></span><span class="EOP SCXW4460405" data-ccp-props="{"335551550":6,"335551620":6}" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"> </span></p><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1875553946" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{44}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; text-align: justify;"><span class="EOP SCXW4460405" data-ccp-props="{"335551550":6,"335551620":6}" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"><br></span></p></div><div class="OutlineElement Ltr SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; overflow: visible; cursor: text; clear: both; position: relative; direction: ltr; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family: "Segoe UI", Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;"><p class="Paragraph SCXW4460405" paraid="1301886462" paraeid="{592c7170-5d60-47d0-96ad-14d718dba000}{46}" style="padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; word-wrap: break-word; vertical-align: baseline; background-color: transparent; color: windowtext; text-align: justify;"><span class="TextRun SCXW4460405" xml: lang="EN-US" lang="EN-US" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-variant-ligatures: none !important; font-size: 12pt; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif; line-height: 20px;"><span class="NormalTextRun SCXW4460405" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; background-color: inherit;"></span></span><span class="EOP SCXW4460405" data-ccp-props="{"335551550":6,"335551620":6}" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px; user-select: text; -webkit-user-drag: none; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: transparent; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 20px; font-family: "Times New Roman", "Times New Roman_MSFontService", serif;"> </span><span style="background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; font-size: 10pt; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-variant-east-asian: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">To take the BSPI Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bspisurvey.com%20/" target="_blank" style="font-size: inherit !important; color: rgb(67, 67, 67); font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important;"> </span></a><a href="http://bspisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-variant-east-asian: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">BSPISurvey.com </a></p><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(70, 11, 0); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> </span><span style="font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(70, 11, 0); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bsiisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important;">BSIISurvey.com</span></a></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-26878034599641423102017-11-28T03:00:00.001-08:002017-11-28T03:00:50.672-08:00BSPI Question 18<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE
INDICATOR</span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"> Found at:
<b><a href="http://bspisurvey.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color:#434343">BSPISurvey.com</span></a></b></span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p>This
is the 18<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo2"><!--[if !supportLists]-->18.<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->Would
you rather have a sexual partner who is <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l0 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->comfortable
with suggesting new ideas, or <b><span style="color:red">[A]</span></b><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l0 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->satisfied
with the practiced and familiar? <b><span style="color:red">[H]</span></b><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">We
are creatures of habit and the survey responses confirm it! Over 90% of both women and men are satisfied
with the practiced and familiar, with the men slightly more so at 95%. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">What
this says about our sexual relationships is that we can get pretty comfortable
in a routine but we should caution ourselves not to get too familiar. When it becomes too well known it can become
boring and eventually may lessen its appeal to be sought after. We need to learn to refresh our relationships
from time to time. As the survey reminds,
not all the time, but in the interest of keeping it vibrant and growing, the
relationship will benefit by periodically trying something new. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">The
caution here is to not take it for granted but to remind each other how much
you love and value one another. I would
suggest telling your partner one thing you experienced while being sexually
intimate that made the time together special.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p> </p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Men responded A=5 / H=95<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Women A=9 / H=91<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;">To
take the BSPI Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bspisurvey.com%20/" target="_blank" style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67);"> </span></a><a href="http://bspisurvey.com" target="_blank">BSPISurvey.com </a><b><span style="color:#434343"><br style="font-style:inherit !important;font-variant:
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<span style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"></span></span></b><span style="font-size: 10pt; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"></span><br style="font-style:inherit !important;font-variant:inherit !important;
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<span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> </span><span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bsiisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67);">BSIISurvey.com</span></a><o:p></o:p></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-57537866908083925412017-11-21T03:54:00.001-08:002017-11-21T03:54:09.013-08:00BSPI Question 17<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE
INDICATOR</span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"> Found at:
<b><a href="http://bspisurvey.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color:#434343">BSPISurvey.com</span></a></b></span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p>This
is the 17<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2"><!--[if !supportLists]-->17.<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->In
your sexual encounters, do you<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l1 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->enjoy
feeling a sense of urgency, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l1 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->hold
back if feeling any sense of urgency? <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">The
majority of respondents do not enjoy feeling a sense of urgency. While 32% of the men were in favor of such a
feeling, only 20% of the women responded positively. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">For
many men, feeling of a sense of urgency, especially from their partners, has
been a catalyst for them to seek professional help when they have reacted
unfavorably. Men have reported that
feeling a sense of urgency has impeded their ability to perform. Unfortunately too many cultural messages
pervade that sex is about performance.
It is reinforced constantly from the unrealistic view of sexuality that
is pervasive in the pornography industry to the advertisements that bombard the
male psyche from the pharmaceutical companies specializing in the erectile
dysfunction [ED] medications. One notable
tag line is “be ready when the time is right!”
One not familiar with what <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">ED
medications are for might question – “what does ready mean?” It is clearly about performing. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">Given
the disparity in the responsibilities for the house and family between women
and men might lead us to conclude why 80% of the women hold back if feeling any
sense of urgency. Sex can be just one
more thing to be checked off of an already too long list of things to take care
of in addition to maintaining a career outside the home. Another reason is that urgency often
translates into “stress” when too few resources [i.e. time] are available, not
to mention the energy required to make sex enjoyable. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
question presents with an excellent opportunity to open the dialogue around
sexual matters and, like the previous question about sexual wants, provides the
space to talk about what you really need from your partner. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Men responded A=32 / H=68<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Women A=20 / H=80<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;">To
take the BSPI Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bspisurvey.com%20/" target="_blank" style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67);"> </span></a><a href="http://bspisurvey.com" target="_blank">BSPISurvey.com </a><b><span style="color:#434343"><br style="font-style:inherit !important;font-variant:
inherit !important;font-weight:inherit !important;font-stretch: inherit !important;
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<span style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"></span></span></b><span style="font-size: 10pt; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"></span><br style="font-style:inherit !important;font-variant:inherit !important;
font-weight:inherit !important;font-stretch: inherit !important;font-size:inherit !important;
line-height:inherit !important">
<span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> </span><span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bsiisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67);">BSIISurvey.com</span></a><o:p></o:p></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-51504476504173262422017-11-14T03:51:00.001-08:002017-11-14T03:51:09.756-08:00BSPI Question 16<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; font-weight: bold; font-size: 18px;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE
INDICATOR</span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin: 11.25pt 0in; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"> Found at:
<b><a href="http://bspisurvey.com/" target="_blank"><span style="color:#434343">BSPISurvey.com</span></a></b></span><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#460B00"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p>This
is the 16<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2"><!--[if !supportLists]-->16.<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->In
your sexual relationship[s] are you<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l1 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->unsure
of what you want, or <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l1 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->sure
of what you want? <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">It
may surprise some that ¾ of the men surveyed are unsure of what they want in their
sexual relationships, while more than half but not as many women [60%] were
equally unsure. One reason for the
higher numbers of unsure partners may have to do with how comfortable you are
at communicating your sexual needs. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p><br></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p>C</o:p>ommunication
ranks at the top of the list of what couples struggle with the most when it
comes to sexual matters. Usually it is
due to a lack of communicating effectively with each other. As a sex therapist, this is what finally
brought many couples to seek out professional help, when they can no longer
deal with their issues on their own. </p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">It
is interesting to listen how for so many, in the early stages of a developing
relationship, communication seems to be so easy and comfortable. It appears that communications run the biggest
risk of deteriorating when emotional distancing creeps into the
relationship. Like weeds in the garden
if you don’t tend them, they will over run your crops threatening a bountiful
harvest. Relationships are no different
– they need tending to or they will fall apart.
Communication is a rich nutrient that keeps the relationship healthy and
growing strong!<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p> </p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Men responded S=75 / D=25<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal">Women S=60 / D=40<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;">To take the BSPI Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bspisurvey.com%20/" target="_blank" style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67);"> </span></a><a href="http://bspisurvey.com" target="_blank">BSPISurvey.com </a><b><span style="color:#434343"><br style="font-style:inherit !important;font-variant:
inherit !important;font-weight:inherit !important;font-stretch: inherit !important;
font-size:inherit !important;line-height:inherit !important">
<span style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"></span></span></b><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"></span><br style="font-style:inherit !important;font-variant:
inherit !important;font-weight:inherit !important;font-stretch: inherit !important;
font-size:inherit !important;line-height:inherit !important">
<span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> </span><span style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bsiisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67);">BSIISurvey.com</span></a><o:p></o:p></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-28259672418444801272017-10-24T10:02:00.001-07:002017-10-24T10:02:11.384-07:00BSPI Question #15<p class="MsoNormal" style="color: rgb(70, 11, 0); font-size: 13px; margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; width: 414px; line-height: inherit !important; font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important;"><span style="font-weight: inherit !important; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</span></span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><o:p style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important; color: rgb(70, 11, 0) !important;"></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="color: rgb(70, 11, 0); font-size: 13px; margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; width: 414px; line-height: inherit !important; font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important;"><span style="font-weight: inherit !important; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</span></span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><o:p style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important; color: rgb(70, 11, 0) !important;"></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="color: rgb(70, 11, 0); font-size: 13px; margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; width: 414px; line-height: inherit !important; font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important;"><span style="font-weight: inherit !important; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> Found at: </span></span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-weight: bold;"><a href="http://bspisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;">BSPISurvey.com</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
is the 15<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:<br></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraph" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2"> 15.<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->Do
you prefer to<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l1 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->outwardly
express intense sexual pleasure, or <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in;text-indent:.5in">(B) inwardly
experience intense bodily sensations?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">Both
men and women seemed aligned in their preference to outwardly express their
sexual pleasure 63% and 60% respectively.
More than half of the people surveyed like to communicate to their
partners the pleasure that they are experiencing. This represents a positive direction towards
an opportunity for a deeper intimate bond.
Learning what pleases our partner can be emotionally satisfying for both
people. From a love language perspective
where words of affirmation fills your tank, then this expression is packed with
a double benefit, one of sharing in your partner’s pleasure while having your
own love tank filled. For those
respondents who inwardly experience intense bodily sensations, an opportunity
is made available for you to share how your partner has impacted your personal
pleasure. Discussing how wonderful an
experience not only strengthens your bond but also lets you relive the good
feelings.</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><br></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="color: rgb(70, 11, 0); font-size: 13px; margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; width: 414px; text-align: justify; line-height: inherit !important; font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important;"><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">To take the BSPI Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bspisurvey.com%20/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;"> </a><a href="http://BSPISurvey.com " target="_blank">BSPISurvey.com </a><span style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; font-weight: bold; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;"><br></span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><br style="font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; font-family: inherit !important; color: rgb(70, 11, 0) !important;"></span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"> </span><span style="font-size: 10pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;">For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: </span><a href="http://bsiisurvey.com/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; font-family: inherit !important; font-size: inherit !important; font-style: inherit !important; font-variant: inherit !important; font-weight: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;">BSIISurvey.com</a></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-62507129229908299602017-10-17T04:00:00.001-07:002017-10-24T10:02:39.784-07:00BSPI Question #14<p class="MsoNormal" style="background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
color:#606060">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</span></b><span style="font-size:
10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
color:#606060"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
color:#606060"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</span></b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#606060"><o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;
font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";
color:#606060"> Found at: </span></b><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#606060"><a href="http://bspisurvey.com/" target="_blank">BSPISurvey.com</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
is the 14<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">14.</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Does
the idea of teaching your partner what satisfies you sexually</span></p><p class="MsoListParagraph" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo2"><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l0 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->stimulate
you, or<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l0 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->reduce
your desire? </p><p class="MsoNormal"><br></p><p class="MsoNormal">The men in the survey responded in the affirmative to the
tune of 80% that the idea of teaching their partner what sexually satisfies
them is a turn-on and so did 60% of the women surveyed. Apparently the teacher role turns many people
on. This presents a real opportunity for
couples to make sex about pleasure, FUN and intimacy. By focusing on fun, you can be playful with
your partner, which will enhance the relationship and deepen the bonds of
intimacy. It is a win/win for everyone
involved. </p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#606060">To take the BSPI
Survey visit: </span><a href="http:// BSPISurvey.com " target="_blank"> BSPISurvey.com </a><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#606060"><br></span><span style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 10pt;"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#606060">For the Beiter Sex
Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: </span><a href="http://BSIISurvey.com" target="_blank">BSIISurvey.com</a><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-font-family:"Times New Roman";color:#606060"><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-image: initial; background-position: initial; background-size: initial; background-repeat: initial; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial;"><span style="font-size:10.0pt;font-family:"Arial",sans-serif;mso-fareast-font-family:
"Times New Roman";color:#606060"><br><o:p></o:p></span></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-4684800457359562542017-10-10T00:45:00.001-07:002017-10-12T04:01:16.295-07:00BSPI Questions #13<div style="font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="font-weight: bold;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</span></div><div style="font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</span></div><div style="font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><span style="font-weight: bold;"> Found at: </span><a href="http://BSPISurvey.com" target="_blank">BSPISurvey.com</a><span style="font-weight: bold;"><br></span></div><div style="font-size: 13px; font-family: "open sans", sans-serif; color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-variant-numeric: inherit !important; font-stretch: inherit !important; line-height: inherit !important;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
is the 13<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p>13. Is sexual
activity more enjoyable if you feel</p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l0 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->emotionally
connected, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:72.75pt;text-indent:-18.75pt;mso-list:
l0 level2 lfo1;tab-stops:list 72.75pt"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]-->physically
aroused? <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p><span style="text-align: justify;">Some
readers might find it surprising that more than half [60%] of the men surveyed want
to feel emotionally connected along with 70% of the women.</span><span style="text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="text-align: justify;">Based on cultural messages many of us have received
through the years, the thought that most men would connect sexual activity with
physical sensations would likely seem to be the norm.</span><span style="text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="text-align: justify;">However, this question reminds us that there
is a lot of unspoken communication that if taken advantage of could further
enhance our relationships and deepen our bonds of intimacy.</span><span style="text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="text-align: justify;">On the flip side many would not be surprised
that a majority of the women have connected the sexual with the emotional.</span><span style="text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="text-align: justify;">This should make us wonder if this is the
case then what messages do women receive that are different from men in shaping
their experiences of sex and sexuality? Use the question to explore your
relationship and ask what it means to feel emotionally connected.</span><span style="text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="text-align: justify;">From a therapeutic perspective – not being
emotionally connected is what brings a lot of couples into therapy.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="text-align: justify;"><br></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; ">To take the BSPI Survey visit: <a href=" http://BSPISurvey.com " target="_blank"> BSPISurvey.com </a></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: justify; ">For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit: <a href="http://BSIISurvey.com" target="_blank">BSIISurvey.com</a></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-47346623415529609902017-03-08T04:11:00.000-08:002017-03-08T04:11:04.742-08:00BSPI Question #12<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div>This is the 12 question in my survey and asks:</div><div><br></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in">12. Does planning for your sexual
activity:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> arouse
you, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> turn
you off sexually?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This is the first question where you might be pleasantly
surprised to discover that most people – women 80% and men 85% get turned on by
planning for sexual activity. Even
though many people complain that there is no spontaneity in their sexual
relationships, the majority appears to want to plan for sex possibly to make
sure it happens. When you really think
about it, I believe most people get excited when they know they can look
forward to something and when that something is sex even more so. I suggest taking turns to plan, don’t leave
it up to the same partner – you are both responsible for the relationship. Introducing something new with your partner
has been discussed in several previous blogs and keeps the relationship healthy
and exciting. We get bored and
eventually uninterested when we repeat the same thing over and over even when
that ‘thing’ is enjoyable. By planning
you build anticipation and you will really look forward to that time. A word of advice – keep the time you plan
sacred – unless there is a life threatening event, don’t let anything interfere
with your time together and leave the cell phones in another room. Consider planning when you both have the most
energy and again make it pleasurable fun and intimate!<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><o:p> </o:p></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-91441780848763267202017-03-01T04:13:00.000-08:002017-03-01T04:13:12.533-08:00BSPI Question #11<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div>This is the 11 question in my survey and asks:</div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in">11. When engaged in sexual
activity do you prefer the:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> lights
on, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> lights
off?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This is another one of those questions where an almost
reciprocating difference between male and females emerge. 75% of the men and 35% of the women responded
that they prefer the lights on. The flip
side is that 25% of the men and 65% of the women want the lights off. There are two ways to look at this question –
one is in the light of body image and how we feel when we look in the mirror
and what looks backs – and the other way is by the assignment of gender roles
with regards to masculinity and femininity. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">Body image issues plague many people, especially since our culture
has reinforced over and over again what is “the ideal image” that we should be
striving to be. The message is not about
accepting you as you are but that you are flawed and need to look a certain
way. I think the messages are much
harder on women than men and as a result we could interpret the results of this
question that many women prefer to keep their images in the dark. We need to learn to accept our image as is
and not compare it to a static moment in time that photographs represent and
assign an unrealistic ideal that we should be striving for, i.e. young, slim,
fit and built.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">The other way to interpret this question is through the view
that “men are visual” and of course they would need the lights on to see. I think that this way of thinking about the
preference for men to be visual gets back to Zilbergeld [The New Male
Sexuality] belief that boys come into their sexuality around the three prongs
of secrecy, privacy and impersonality.
Boys do not make the connection that the sex is about relationships and
there is no one pushing that agenda either, with many parents being
uncomfortable talking about sex with their children and the lack of a healthy
education regarding sex in our school systems.
<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">I would encourage you to have a pleasurable, fun and intimate
conversation with your partner about this question. It could be very interesting to discover how
and why your partner answered the way she or he did. Besides, it is a great way to grow closer and
deepen your connection with each other.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><o:p> </o:p></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-79126115731973448432017-02-22T04:15:00.001-08:002017-02-22T04:15:06.528-08:00BSPI Question #10<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div>This is the 10 question in my survey and asks:</div><div><br></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in">10. If you were to fantasize about
sexual activity, would you prefer to:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> direct
the action, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> be
directed?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This question might surprise you as to the results and how the
women and men prefer to dominate or be dominated. 58% of the men and 25% of the women responded
that they wanted to direct the action, i.e. dominate. The flip side is that 42% of the men and 75%
of the women wanted to submit by being directed, i.e. be dominated. The surprise comes from what many think of
the masculine preference to be in charge and yet the survey indicates that
almost half as many men want to be directed.
This is one of those questions where I wonder how much scripting along
gender lines has an affect on how one answers the questions. As a man are you conditioned to prefer to
dominate and as a woman are you conditioned to be the one to be dominated? <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">The cultural messages are very strong, pervasive and
persistent. We tend to think that being
dominated is the weaker position, while being dominant is stronger and is
linked to the person in charge. However
in a consensual sexual relationship where the couple enjoys and gets turned on
by power playing, just the opposite is true.
[Power Play – two partners decide consciously that one of them will be
in charge and that the other will follow, always keeping it safe, sane and
consensual.] The person being dominated
is the person with all the power and the reason being is because power playing
involves safe words. The play is usually about testing one’s sexual limits and
the play is stopped if the safe word is invoked. Examples of safe words can be red, stop,
pause or whatever you and your partner agree upon.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">So if you would like to try something different, which is
really a good idea to keep your sexual life healthy [ see previous Blog on
Question 8] then you might consider exploring power plays. Remember to keep it safe, sane and consensual
and of course make your sex life all about pleasure, fun and intimacy!<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><o:p> </o:p></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-3875746171828989272017-02-15T10:04:00.003-08:002017-02-15T10:04:02.528-08:00BSPI Question #9<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div>This is the 9 question in my survey and asks:</div><div><br></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in">9. Would you rather be considered a
sexually:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> hands-on
person, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:
l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> creative
person?</p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:
l0 level1 lfo1"><o:p></o:p></p></div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This is another question where the majority of participants
were all in close agreement across all categorical breakouts where 60%
preferred the touchy feely aspect of sex, while 40% preferred to be the
creative person. I think it is important
to note and know your partner’s preference on this one. Since our last question was about introducing
something new and different into the sexual relationship, the creative person
can be a wonderful compliment especially to someone who thinks or feels he or
she is not very creative. If you both
prefer to be hands-on then find fun ways to touch each other that can be fun
and creative. For example, instead of
using your hands, consider using silk ties or scarfs to glide over your skin
and experience the sensations. You can
make it a guessing game by having your partner close her eyes and then using as
many different tactile items around your home.
One couple I suggested this to used foods like noodles, ice, bananas,
grapes, etc. The idea is to have
pleasure, fun and intimacy – so enjoy!</p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-81733714791012414552017-02-08T04:01:00.001-08:002017-02-08T04:01:14.048-08:00BSPI Question #8<div style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-family: helvetica55, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-family: helvetica55, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div style="color: rgb(96, 96, 96); font-family: helvetica55, helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 17px; color: rgb(72, 72, 72); margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; width: 414px; text-align: justify;">This is the 8th question in my survey and asks:</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in">8. Are you more sexually
comfortable:<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> dealing
with spontaneous creative stirrings, or<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> engaging
in a pleasurable routine?<o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">There was a definite agreement on this question, the majority
of all participants across all categories preferred dealing with spontaneous
creative stirrings. The results were 70%
for (A) and 30% for (B). A good follow
up question to know would have been: What percentage of the time do you actually
engage in spontaneous creative stirrings?
While many people claim this preference, from a therapeutic standpoint
many seek therapy because there sexual life has gone dormant or one partner has
lost interest because of the lack of spontaneity or variety. The research suggests in may fields related
and unrelated to sex indicate that novelty is what keeps things fresh. One suggestion I have for couples is that
periodically take turns introducing something new and or different in their
sexual relationship to keep it fresh and exciting. So what do you do to keep it interesting? <o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 17px; color: rgb(72, 72, 72); margin-top: 15px; margin-bottom: 15px; width: 414px; text-align: justify;">
</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><o:p> </o:p></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-25698791842920634752017-02-02T16:01:00.000-08:002017-02-02T10:13:31.140-08:00BSPI Question #7<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div>This is the 7 question in my survey and asks:</div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.25in">7. If you were to fantasize about
being with more than one partner, would you prefer to engage with:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> all
the participants simultaneously, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> one
person at a time?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This question more than any other has been brought to my
attention as one in which some people have a difficult time answering. The main reason is because some people claim
to not fantasize. Some have even gone so
far to say that they felt like it was cheating on their partner by not being
fully present. I have had couples in
therapy struggle with this when one of them uses fantasy to get turned on while
the other does not. When encountering
this situation, I usually use a metaphor of what it was like playing with your
best friend when you were a kid. When
boys play sports one-on-one like basketball or football they usually pretend to
be someone else to enhance the experience they are having and to add to the
fun. Your friend doesn’t get mad or
upset because you imagine him to be someone else, you play along and imagine
him to be someone else. The bottom line
is that you are still with your best friend enjoying the sport together. You just use your imagination to take you someplace
else and you are taking your best friend along with you – you’re not leaving
them behind or wishing they were someone else in reality.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">The men responded that 64% fantasized about engaging with all
the participants and so did 45% of the women.
Since many men follow a pattern of sexuality that was initiated by the
tenets that sex is secret, private, and impersonal [Zilbergeld – The New Male
Sexuality] it would lend support to the majority selecting all the
participants. If partners shared their
results, I wonder how many lively discussions took place after each revealed
her/his preference to by with multiple partners? My guess is that I think there are a few
surprised participants and it is exactly why I wrote the survey to be a communications
tool.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><o:p> </o:p></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-27363143706806867892017-01-13T04:15:00.000-08:002017-01-13T04:15:03.684-08:00BSPI Question #6<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
is the 6<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo2"><!--[if !supportLists]-->6.<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";">
</span><!--[endif]-->What
more often rules your desire, your:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> emotions,
or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> physical
urges?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This is the first question where an almost reciprocating
difference between male and females emerge.
35% of the men and 60% of the women responded that they are ruled by
their emotions. The flip side is that
65% of the men and 40% of the women are motivated by their physical urges. This is one of those questions that you could
interpret through the lens of masculinity and femininity without assigning it
to gender roles. Physical urges are the
realm of the masculine and the emotional urges are that of the feminine. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">However, when we think about emotions and how they are
expressed research has suggested that women are more prone to talk about what
they are thinking and feeling and to demonstrate with facial expressions,
gestures and body language. Men on the
other hand have been conditioned to process their emotions inwardly. Some men fear their own emotions considering
them a sign of weakness and therefore bury them in order to protect
themselves. So maybe there is no
surprise in how the numbers of this question shook out. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">One last thought on how this question gets answered by men
may have to do with how they are conditioned around sex in general. Bernie Zilbergeld wrote in The New Male
Sexuality that boys come into their sexuality around three prongs: it’s a
secret event; it’s a private event; and it’s impersonal. Whatever starts a boy’s sexual engine is
rarely associated with emotion and relationship other than with oneself. So it would appear the physical connection is
made early on and then is reinforced throughout his formative years.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">Again as a reminder using the survey as a communications
tool, I suggest you have a discussion with your partner as to his or her
response to this question. Really
explore your reason for answering the way you did. Is it possible that you see one of theses
responses as less valuable than the other and if so why? Make it fun as you inquire and learn more
intimate details of your relationship, which should result in more pleasure for
the two of you!</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><o:p><br></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in"><strong style="color: rgb(72, 72, 72); font-family: helvetica55, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;"><a data-cke-saved-href="http://www.bspitest.com/" href="http://www.bspitest.com/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;">Take the </a><a data-cke-saved-href="http://" href="http:" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;">BSPI©</a> to find out more about your own preferences!</strong><br></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-3141164603567369522017-01-12T15:43:00.000-08:002017-01-12T15:43:49.688-08:00BSPI Question #5<div>What’s Your Sexual Preference?</div><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
is the 5<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo2"><!--[if !supportLists]-->5.<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";">
</span><!--[endif]-->Do you
prefer sexual partners who:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> are
romantic, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> express
excitement through touch?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This question teases out the subtle differences between men
and women. It may surprise you to know
that the majority of women [59%] along with the possible less surprising fact
that men [79%] prefer a tactile preference, i.e. they like to touch. The survey respondents highlight that for
both men and women the need for romance while truly important for some, is not
the default. The cultural messages that
permeate would have us believe that romance is a primary consideration when
dealing with women but that is not what the results point out. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"> In the book – Men Are Slobs, Women
Are Neat, authors Alyn and Phillips talk about what happens when you strip away
gender stereotypes, they claim that “Women are surrounded by messages that say
all women need romance…[yet] some women aren’t naturally romantic…our culture
tells men that being romantic or desiring romance is not macho, so many men
will just stuff their desires.” The
results of the survey for men clearly emphasize what Alyn and Phillips
wrote. So is it a matter of social
conditioning that have men answer the way they do? <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"> Again as a reminder using the survey
as a communications tool, I suggest you have a discussion with your partner as
to his or her response to this question.
Really explore your reason for answering the way you did. Is it possible that you see one of theses
responses as less valuable than the other and if so why? Make it fun as you inquire and learn more
intimate details of your relationship, which should result in more pleasure for
the two of you!</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p><br></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><strong style="color: rgb(72, 72, 72); font-family: helvetica55, helvetica, arial, sans-serif; text-align: left;"><a data-cke-saved-href="http://www.bspitest.com/" href="http://www.bspitest.com/" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;">Take the </a><a data-cke-saved-href="http://" href="http:" target="_blank" style="color: rgb(67, 67, 67); cursor: pointer; background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255) !important;">BSPI©</a> to find out more about your own preferences!</strong><br></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-71953033615777499512016-12-14T18:33:00.001-08:002016-12-14T18:34:40.555-08:00BSPI Question 4<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">This
is the 4<sup>th</sup> question in my survey and asks:<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="text-indent: -0.25in; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Do you
prefer to:</span></p><p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo2"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l1 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(A)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> schedule sexual time well in advance, or<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:
auto;text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;
mso-list:l1 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]-->(B)<span style="font-variant-numeric: normal; font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><!--[endif]--> be
open to your sexual urges when you feel them?<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left:.75in;mso-add-space:auto;
text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">This is the first question in the survey that had no gender differences
in the results. The majority of the survey respondents [93%] prefer to be open
to their sexual urges and when it comes to scheduling sex only 7% prefer
it. And yet as a therapist one of the
more frequent issues couples bring to therapy is the lack of sexual time
together. While many people may claim to
want to be open to their sexual urges, just how many actually take the time to
satisfy them? And then there is the question
about misaligned timing – how do you manage when one of you is “in the mood”
and the other is not? <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">The ‘sexual timing’ disconnect for some couples is what
prevents them from taking advantage of their sexual urges. One of the more common complaints has to do
with timing at the end of the day and the couple not going to bed
together. Another issue deals with how
exhausted one of the partners feels at the end of the day. Many of the women bear the greater share of
responsibility for the house and children while also holding a full time job
leaving little if any energy for sex. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:.5in">Sometimes people make the assumption as a result of
misaligned sexual urges that one partner has a higher sexual drive than the
other. What it comes down to is
communication. Communicating and talking
it out with each other can successfully resolve most sexual issues between
couples. Learning not to criticize
and/or judge but seeking first to listen to understand and not react will go a
long way in helping reduce conflict in the relationship. Remember to make all your sexual experiences
grounded in pleasure, fun and intimacy.
Talking with your partner about sex should be a very intimate experience
that the two of you share.<o:p></o:p></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-71913962416232536492016-12-06T13:56:00.001-08:002016-12-06T13:56:07.123-08:00BSPI Test Question 3<h1 class="h1"><em style="color: inherit; font-family: inherit; font-size: 18px;">What’s Your Sexual Preference?</em><br></h1><div> BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR</div><div><br></div><div style="text-align: justify;">This is the third question in my survey and asks:<br> 3. Regarding sexual activity, are you usually:<br> (A) the one to initiate, or<br> (B) passive and acquiescing?<br><br>This is the first question where a significant difference between male and females emerge. 78% of the men and 40% of the women responded that they are usually the ones to initiate sexual activity. I personally think that these results raise more fundamental questions than it answers. For example, are men conditioned to initiate and are women conditioned to be initiated upon? If the answer to that question is ‘yes’ then what are the cultural, societal and familial messages that are being reinforced? I noticed that if you combine the total number of respondents that selected ‘(A) the one to initiate’ that the percentages tend to flatten out – meaning that 53% of the survey respondents initiate sexual activity while 47% prefer to be initiated upon. </div><div style="text-align: justify;"><br>Using the survey as a communications tool, have a discussion with your partner as to what his or her preference is, would like it to be shared, is it a major turn-on if your partner pursues you? <br><br>Remember the purpose of the survey is to have fun while being intimate with one another and find ways to make it pleasurable for you.<br></div><div><p><strong><a data-cke-saved-href="http://www.bspitest.com/" href="http://www.bspitest.com/" target="_blank">Take the </a><a data-cke-saved-href="http://" href="http://" target="_blank">BSPI©</a> to find out more about your own preferences!</strong></p></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-40678467535947958292016-11-08T06:04:00.001-08:002016-11-08T06:04:59.542-08:00CROSSING THROUGH 6 DECADES IN THE BEST SHAPE EVER!<div>Happy Birthday to me! I recently turned 60 years and began planning for my “New Year’s” day almost 82 weeks ago. On April 1, 2015 I reminded myself of Napoleon Hill’s famous quote that whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve! At age 60, I conceived that I wanted to be in the best physical shape ever and that I had rock solid abs. I’m proud to say that I achieved my goal.</div><div> </div><div>My journey began by hiring a personal trainer to guide me along the path by writing my weekly workouts. As an over-achiever and self-motivated individual, I just needed the written exercises. Over the course of 18.5 months, I never missed a workout. My time in the gym, which ranged from 4 to 6 days a week lasted anywhere from 45 minutes to 2 hours depending on what muscle group I was working on that day.</div><div> </div><div>I learned it was not so much the weight you pushed around in the gym that got you healthier but the consistency of going everyday. I never once felt pressured or agonized about going, instead I found joy and solace there. I missed my home gym at Lakeland High School when I traveled out of town and looked forward returning to the familiar surroundings I grew to enjoy.</div><div> </div><div>In closing, I am grateful for, and to, all the people who helped and encouraged me along the way. Even though it appears to be a self-directed journey it can never be completed alone or as one of my friends remind me that the word alone when broken down says that we are “al[l] one”. I had a lot of help in my success from the people I love most in this world to the ones who really did not know me but fed me, clothed me and provided the places for me to workout. </div><div>So what are you willing to commit to in order to personally develop and grow? What would you like to achieve from what you can conceive and believe? I would love to hear from you and the journey you are taking.</div><div> </div><div>For more information or to work with me visit the <a href="http://www.sexhealthdoc.com/contact" target="_blank">contact page</a> on my website, <a href="http://SexHealthDoc.com" target="_blank">SexHealthDoc.com</a>. (The picture - that's me at 60!)</div><img src="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c28452_3200838e7e0f45fe85bc830217b8ecd7~mv2_d_2502_3753_s_4_2.jpg" style="width: 275.273px; height: 413.2px;">Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-65637162678845471572016-08-02T05:39:00.001-07:002016-08-02T05:39:08.341-07:00Top 10 that can lower your sex drive<p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1.7em;">Every now and then I run across something that I think can have an impact on relationships. The following tips are worth sharing and worth paying attenion to.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1.7em;"><br></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: bold;">Here are the </span><span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: 700; line-height: 27.2px; text-align: center;">Top 10 That Lower Sex Drive from PleasureMeNow.com</span></p>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">White bread</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Eating refined carbohydrates saps your sexual
energy because these foods release sugar too quickly, which leads to an energy
slump that can make you too tired for fun in bed. Too much sugar can also make
you fat, which causes all sorts of problems, including an increased estrogen
level, that lowers testosterone levels in both men and women, causing a lowered
libido. People with extra weight also have reduced blood flow to the sex
organs, which means less arousal and more frequent bouts of dysfunction.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Cold and Flu Remedies</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Medicines
that contain diphenhydramine or pseudoephedrine not only affect your sex drive
but can cause erectile problems. Antihistamines can lead to ejaculation
problems as well as low sex drive in both men and women.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Iron Deficiency</span></b><span style="font-family:
"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Low iron levels may reduce
the quality of blood flow and sap energy.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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none;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:11.0pt .5in;mso-layout-grid-align:none;
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Blood Pressure Pills</span></b><span style="font-family:
"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Because these medications
reduce heart rate and blood flow, not as much blood gets to the genitals, and
function and desire are deminished.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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none;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:11.0pt .5in;mso-layout-grid-align:none;
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Baldness Cures</span></b><span style="font-family:
"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Men who take the hair loss
drug Finasteride (Propecia) can have a significantly reduced libido. It's
thought the drug alters levels of important brain chemicals that affect mood
and other bodily functions.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-.5in;mso-pagination:
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Losing Pounds too Quickly</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Taking
weight off too fast can disturb hormones and affect fertility. If you lose more
than 10 % of your body weight too quickly, your body goes into starvation mode
and all unnecessary functions (such as sex drive) shut down. All you want to do
is sleep...<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Painkillers</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Opiate based painkillers such as codeine and
morphine can supress activity in the hypothalamus, which causes a release of
hormones that suppress libido. If you're worried about your sex drive, stick
with painkillers such as paracetamol and ibuprofen.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">Diabetes</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Diabetes can cause nerve ddamage, which means
you're less sensitive to touch. It also causes lowered testosterone levels,
narrowed arteries and nerve damage which can lead to erectile difficulty.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
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</span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA">The Pill</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;
mso-fareast-language:JA"> - The hormones in the Pill trick your body into
thinking you're already pregnant and don't need to reproduce. It also lowers
testosterone levels, which prevents ovulation and horniness.<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left:.5in;text-indent:-40.5pt;mso-pagination:
none;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1;tab-stops:11.0pt .5in;mso-layout-grid-align:none;
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mso-fareast-font-family:Helvetica;mso-fareast-language:JA">10<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span><!--[endif]--><b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA">Antidepressants</span></b><span style="font-family:"Helvetica",sans-serif;mso-fareast-language:JA"> - Selective
serotonin reuptake inhibitors - a modern family of antidepressants including
Prozac (fluoxetine), Seroxat (paroxetine) and sertraline - cause a loss of
libido and delayed orgasm in the majority of people who take them. Older
antipsychotic drugs such as haloperidol (Serenace) and chlorpromazine
(Largactil) and some newer ones such as risperidone (Risperdal) also affect
sexual desire in up to three-quarters of people tested. A new drug called
agomelatine (or Valdoxan) does not cause these side-effects, nor does
mirtazapine (Avanza, Zispin).<o:p></o:p></span></p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-4970817310772130302016-07-25T05:39:00.000-07:002016-07-25T05:39:26.194-07:00Best communication habit<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">When
it comes to improving the communication in your relationship, there is no
better <i>habit</i> than to <i>seek first to understand, then to be
understood</i>. This <i>habit</i> comes from Stephen Covey’s
best-seller <i>The 7 Habits of Highly
Effective People</i>. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">Covey
said that most people don’t listen to understand but only listen with the
intent to reply. There is a big
difference in the way we listen when we are trying to understand the other
person versus when we are waiting for the person to stop talking so we can respond. We run the risk of carrying on monologues
instead of dialogues. It is a true gift
to be fully present to another person and let them know you fully understand
what has just been said. <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">When
you get really good at this habit – after listening to someone and wanting them
to know that you really understood them – you repeat what you heard them say in
words better than they could explain it to you.
Remember it’s a habit and will take time and practice, practice,
practice to get good at it!<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align:center"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" align="center" style="text-align:center"><o:p> </o:p></p><img src="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c28452_4a0e394166c5426994407a7cd3d6ac2d~mv2_d_1313_1688_s_2.jpg" style="width: 50%; float: none;">Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-52294568278030926332016-07-08T13:10:00.002-07:002016-07-08T13:12:46.864-07:00The 5 Love Languages <img src="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c28452_c606cb2b322c485e9cb1f0a8799e82ca~mv2.png" style="width: 50%;"><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><br></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><br></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">Gary
Chapman wrote an amazing and influential book titled – The Five Love
Languages. Ever since I read it, I have
applied it both professionally and personally.
I like to think of his methodology as fundamental to being successful in
any of your important relationships. </p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 1.7em;">(Watch an introduction to the 5 Love Languages on my </span><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WC26X46C4ts" target="_blank">YouTube</a><span style="line-height: 1.7em;"> page!) </span><br></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">Chapman
identified 5 love languages that are essential for any relationship to
thrive. He believed it is vital and
crucial to keep each other’s love tank full.
You can liken the tank to the gasoline tank on your vehicle – if you
drain it dry – you are going nowhere! If
you empty the love tank in your relationship it stalls and anger and resentment
can set in.<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><span style="line-height: 1.7em;">Chapman
claims each of us has a primary love language that we cannot live without.</span><span style="line-height: 1.7em;"> </span><span style="line-height: 1.7em;">He identified them as follows:</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph;
text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family:Symbol;mso-fareast-font-family:Symbol;mso-bidi-font-family:
Symbol">·<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span><!--[endif]-->Words of Affirmation<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:
inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family:Symbol;mso-fareast-font-family:Symbol;mso-bidi-font-family:
Symbol">·<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span><!--[endif]-->Quality Time<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:
inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family:Symbol;mso-fareast-font-family:Symbol;mso-bidi-font-family:
Symbol">·<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span><!--[endif]-->Acts of Service<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:
inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family:Symbol;mso-fareast-font-family:Symbol;mso-bidi-font-family:
Symbol">·<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span><!--[endif]-->Receiving Gifts <o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:
inter-ideograph;text-indent:-.25in;mso-list:l0 level1 lfo1"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family:Symbol;mso-fareast-font-family:Symbol;mso-bidi-font-family:
Symbol">·<span style="font-stretch: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></span><!--[endif]-->Physical Touch<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph">He
offers a free assessment on his website at <a href="http://www.5lovelanguages.com/">www.5lovelanguages.com</a> if you are not
sure. Take the time and learn your
partner’s language your relationship will be the better for it. Call me if you need help with your
relationship and you just don’t know where to turn!<o:p></o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align:justify;text-justify:inter-ideograph"><o:p> </o:p></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: center;"><o:p> </o:p></p><img src="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/c28452_c606cb2b322c485e9cb1f0a8799e82ca~mv2.png">Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-885435991134641900.post-13877814950724307332016-05-09T05:59:00.001-07:002016-05-09T06:00:01.453-07:00You Just Don’t Understand<div><span style="line-height: 1.7em;">Deborah Tannen wrote a book titled, "</span><span style="line-height: 1.7em;">You Just Don’t Understand". It's over 20 years old, yet</span><span style="line-height: 1.7em;"> I still reference a story from her work that has stuck with me about how women and men communicate. My recollection of the story is that a wife comes home from a bad day at the office and wants to tell her husband what went wrong with her boss. The husband listens intently and then tries to offer her a solution as a way to resolve ‘her’ problem. The wife gets frustrated claiming she does not need him to problem solve and ends the conversation by saying, “you just don’t understand [hence the title of the book]. </span><br></div><div><br></div><div>The next day the husband comes home and complains about how bad his day had been. The wife listens intently as well and then tries to share a similar story from a close friend of hers. He gets frustrated and says he does not care about her friend and storms out saying “you just don’t understand.” His wife was trying to normalize and let him know that it happens to other people as well and that he does not need to be upset about it.</div><div><br></div><div>One reason I reference this story every so often is because when I am working with clients either as a couple or as an individual it becomes obvious that not every conversation they have is about solving problems, sometimes the person just wants/needs to vent. It comes down to a basic listening skill – are we listening to understand or are we listening to respond or even react. This is a skill well worth developing to constantly improve our interpersonal relationships. There is nothing more powerful or persuasive than developing a reputation of being a good listener. As the famous Greek philosopher Epictetus reminds us: we have two ears and one mouth so that we listen twice as much as we speak. </div><div><br></div><div>Here’s your challenge: try taking the time periodically throughout the day to listen to understand and then reflect back to the other person what you heard her/him say. The benefits are two-fold; one you get practice at being a better listener and the person being listened to will really feel validated and appreciated</div><div><br></div><img src="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/49966791e3a2457f9417fc60b0908112.jpg" style="width: 25%;">Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12578350721419544663noreply@blogger.com0