12. Does planning for your sexual
activity:
(A) arouse
you, or
(B) turn
you off sexually?
This is the first question where you might be pleasantly
surprised to discover that most people – women 80% and men 85% get turned on by
planning for sexual activity. Even
though many people complain that there is no spontaneity in their sexual
relationships, the majority appears to want to plan for sex possibly to make
sure it happens. When you really think
about it, I believe most people get excited when they know they can look
forward to something and when that something is sex even more so. I suggest taking turns to plan, don’t leave
it up to the same partner – you are both responsible for the relationship. Introducing something new with your partner
has been discussed in several previous blogs and keeps the relationship healthy
and exciting. We get bored and
eventually uninterested when we repeat the same thing over and over even when
that ‘thing’ is enjoyable. By planning
you build anticipation and you will really look forward to that time. A word of advice – keep the time you plan
sacred – unless there is a life threatening event, don’t let anything interfere
with your time together and leave the cell phones in another room. Consider planning when you both have the most
energy and again make it pleasurable fun and intimate!
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