BSPI Question #15

What’s Your Sexual Preference?

      BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR

         Found at:  BSPISurvey.com

This is the 15^th question in my survey and asks:

 

      15.  Do you prefer to

(A)  outwardly express intense sexual pleasure, or

(B) inwardly experience intense bodily sensations?

 

Both men and women seemed aligned in their preference to outwardly express their sexual pleasure 63% and 60% respectively.  More than half of the people surveyed like to communicate to their partners the pleasure that they are experiencing.  This represents a positive direction towards an opportunity for a deeper intimate bond.   Learning what pleases our partner can be emotionally satisfying for both people.  From a love language perspective where words of affirmation fills your tank, then this expression is packed with a double benefit, one of sharing in your partner’s pleasure while having your own love tank filled.  For those respondents who inwardly experience intense bodily sensations, an opportunity is made available for you to share how your partner has impacted your personal pleasure.  Discussing how wonderful an experience not only strengthens your bond but also lets you relive the good feelings.

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 For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit:  BSIISurvey.com

BSPI Question #14

What’s Your Sexual Preference?

      BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR

         Found at:  BSPISurvey.com

This is the 14^th question in my survey and asks:

         14.  Does the idea of teaching your partner what satisfies you sexually

(A)  stimulate you, or

(B)  reduce your desire? 

The men in the survey responded in the affirmative to the tune of 80% that the idea of teaching their partner what sexually satisfies them is a turn-on and so did 60% of the women surveyed.  Apparently the teacher role turns many people on.  This presents a real opportunity for couples to make sex about pleasure, FUN and intimacy.  By focusing on fun, you can be playful with your partner, which will enhance the relationship and deepen the bonds of intimacy.  It is a win/win for everyone involved. 

 

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BSPI Questions #13

What’s Your Sexual Preference?

      BEITER SEXUAL PREFERENCE INDICATOR

         Found at:  BSPISurvey.com

This is the 13^th question in my survey and asks:

 13.  Is sexual activity more enjoyable if you feel

(A)  emotionally connected, or

(B)  physically aroused?

 Some readers might find it surprising that more than half [60%] of the men surveyed want to feel emotionally connected along with 70% of the women.  Based on cultural messages many of us have received through the years, the thought that most men would connect sexual activity with physical sensations would likely seem to be the norm.  However, this question reminds us that there is a lot of unspoken communication that if taken advantage of could further enhance our relationships and deepen our bonds of intimacy.  On the flip side many would not be surprised that a majority of the women have connected the sexual with the emotional.  This should make us wonder if this is the case then what messages do women receive that are different from men in shaping their experiences of sex and sexuality? Use the question to explore your relationship and ask what it means to feel emotionally connected.  From a therapeutic perspective – not being emotionally connected is what brings a lot of couples into therapy.

To take the BSPI Survey visit:  BSPISurvey.com 

For the Beiter Sex Intimacy Indicator Survey visit:  BSIISurvey.com